Dear you,

Sometimes we need to really remember everything we see isn’t necessarily reality.

This week I’ve lost someone and though I did not know them personally I knew them through music.

I love all different genres of music.

However, more than anything now I hope you are safe. I hope you are okay and please if you are scared of your inner thoughts – don’t think you’re stupid or alone.

You are not alone.

This is real.

Depression is nothing to be joked about.

Be safe,

Sophie x


Dear you,

GUYS, I’ve not forgotten you, I’ve missed you loads but I’m currently writing one blog post that means a LOT to me.
So, until then I’m giving MY honest opinion on something else I care about, something close to my heart and something that recently ended.


I am OBSESSED with Rupaul’s Drag Race! LIVING HUNTY *cough* sorry.

ANYWAY, I have been a big fan of the show for a while now and want to tell you my top 10 FAVOURITE drag queens! No tea, no shade to the other queens who didn’t make this list, these are my opinions!

Fair warning lovelies, there may be a spoiler or two a head!

10. Shangela Laquifa Wadley, Miss Shangela was on two seasons of Drag race, and graced us with her funny attitude and her many many ‘Halleloo’.

09. Ginger Minj, Ginger was a big gurl queen, and she stole my heart, she was so funny and I loved her from the moment she walked in!

08. Roxxxy Andrews, I’m not joking when I tell you this queen is here for one main reason! Her lip sync with for her life with Miss Alyssa Edwards! This girl lip synced to Whip my hair by Willow Smith and IT WAS TURNT. I LOVED IT. Still to this day, one of my favourite lip syncs!

07. Jinkx Monsoon, Jinkx is one of my favourite drag queens on the show for the main reason, she’s craaaazy gurl. She has so much fun with everything she does and honestly, I loved her.

06. Detox, Detox was and I think still is one of the most beautiful queens that has graced our screens! I love her and she hits number six on my list is for her DROP DEAD perfect look on the reunion special.

05. Chad Michaels, The queen who basically embodied Cher! I was living for her snatch game! She absolutely killed it, and honestly, something else I adore about Chad is she can read someone to filth!

04. Jujubee, SHE IS EVERYTHING. Her friendship with Raven is literally the most adorable thing to exist. She also knows how to read a queen to an inch of her life and she is just overall so BEA-U-TIFUL to me!

03. Raven, I LOVE RAVEN. I ADORE her. Raven is one of the first queens who when she walked in I liked her from day one. She is so beautiful, kind and absolutely hysterical! Raven actually makes me cry laugh and personally I think she was robbed, on MORE than one occasion, but that might just be me. I love Raven, she is FIERCE.

02. Latrice Royale, Is one of the funniest queens to grace our screens. I loved everything she did on screen, she is absolutely beautiful and the perfect definition of Miss Congeniality, she was beauty, she served face and she always serves GREAT sass! She will always be in my heart.

01. Willam, I know people are going to be shocked, but I LOVE Willam. I knew Willam from before drag race (OF COURSE, I must own a television)! I cannot cope with how much Willam makes me laugh. I love her on YouTube, on the show and I’m not going to lie I reaaaaally want Willam to be on All Stars!

Thank you for putting up with my weird opinions! In case you wanted to know people I struggled not putting on the list were:
Sharon Needles  Ivy Winters Bianca Del Rio & of course, RAJA!

So obviously they all get special mention!

I LOVE Drag race and DO NOT want to wait another year! UGH! BRING ME ALL STARS SEASON 3!


Hope your day isn’t a drag….

Sophie x

Dear diary

How does a relationship work?

I’ve been in a few relationships in my *cough* nearly twenty years *cough*

However, the one I’m currently in has made me completely happy and it’s going extremely well.

I decided to tell you more honest things about me and my life, and thankfully my boyfriend was excited for this too! So, here are some questions about trusting someone before/whilst dating them!

(Thank you to for the questions & to my boyfriend who has also answered these questions from his perspective)

1) how well do you know him/her?

2) can you trust him/her with your secrets?

3) are you comfortable together when you’re​ alone?

4) do you believe the person will/has changed you?

5) are you attracted to their heart and character?

6) do you appreciate them for who they are right now?

7) how do they treat the other people they love?

8) does your future match?

For the record, I will be answering with an S and my boyfriend will answer with a E.


S – well, my boyfriend and I knew one another through friends for about a year, we knew a lot about one anothers lives but nothing really personal? We really got to know one another personally whilst dating.

E – she was someone that I feel I understand completely so when somrthing is upsetting her, I will know.  I keep learning new things about her everyday which help me know her better than anyone else.


S – I can trust him with secrets about big things, as well as small things. And the best part is he is an awful liar, so I know if he’s accidentally let something slip.

E – I have never been able to trust anyone with any of my secrets but she is the only person that I tell every single secret too. Plus she very blunt so nothing is kept a secret and I love her for it.


S – I love being alone with him, it’s become a safe place for me.

E – She is the only person in the that I want to be alone with as I never feel lonely when she’s there.


S – I honestly believe he has made me more confident and I don’t dislike any changes he has made. He’s also never forced me to change.

E – I feel that she has made me the man I am today. Before I started dating her I was an immature boy who didn’t know what he wanted or where he was going in life. All the changes that I have made are the ones I was too afraid to make myself.


S – I am very attracted to him and his personality, he’s honestly very gorgeous and has a beautiful heart, even if he wasn’t always the best person to people, he has really changed for the better.

E – She has a very kind and forgiving heart which thankfully opposes mine and is slowly changing me in an amazing way. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever met and there is nothing more that I love than her weird and wonderful sense of humour and personality.


S – I love who he is right now, I’ve never met anyone like him.

E – She is the most amazing person I have ever met and there is nothing about her that I would change.


S – He loves his family in his own way, he’s absolutely mad. Though I now realise when he loves someone he’s very very passionate about them.

E –  She looks after everyone that is close to her that she loves even though they might not treat her the best she loves them anyway and does everything for them.


S – The funny thing is the first question I’ll ask anyone when I’m dating someone is do you want to get married and have kids? And he may of freaked out at first, but he did eventually tell me, yes to both and nine months later I’m still with him. Going strong.

E –  When we first started dating S, I was afraid to tell her about what I wanted in the future but the more I opened up to her about it, the more I found that the matched perfectly together. Showing me that we can last forever.

Minus the cheese, our biggest advice on if you’re scared of a new relationship, just be honest and give it time. Please don’t be scared of opening up to someone.

Be happy.

Wishing love to you all.

Soph x

Dear diary,

I realised I started this open online diary to talk openly about my mental illness and life advice, hopefully helping someone out there that need to know someone else has/is going through the same issues.

So I’ve done something I never thought I’d do, and quite honestly it made me anxious doing this, but I did it in the hope to help at least one person.

I googled “what/when/why/where/who anxiety” and I’ve now answered the most googled question! And if you have anxiety I recommend you do the exact same thing to hopefully cause a chain reaction to help others.

Here’s why. 

1) why anxiety develops?

Personally, nothing developed my anxiety, I think I’ve always had a problem with myself. My anxiety has always been apart of me and it’s something as far back as I can remember, but I suppose my first proper panic attack happened when my nan passed away – I’m not going into it as I’ve already talked about it. 

2) why anxiety is good?

I suppose in a way, it’s brought me closer to people who also have anxiety, it gave me a whole new understaning as to why people can become closed off and that by going through the same things as that person you have that ability to empathize, it’s made me who I am today (cheesy cliche, but it’s true).

3) why anxiety at night?

I’m assuming this is meant to be why does anxiety occur mostly at night? I think this to me is because when its night and you try to sleep you have so much time to think and over think anything and everything you’ve done that day and quite honestly things you’ve done seven years ago.

 I’m hoping this helps someone out there. 

My thoughts are with you.


Dear Diary

Quite honestly, I’m realising now how scary life can be if you put yourself out there. I have literally been writing this blog for years and though it wasn’t always online, I have been writing in journals since I can remember. However, ever since I have been putting up my life on here, I feel as if I should tell you more.

I am turning twenty in three weeks and four days. I am currently dating an English man. I am obsessed with make-up and the art form that it is. I also have an obsessive personality.

And quite honestly, I feel like I need to be completely honest with you about something I care about. Film and television.

I know it can sound awfully weird and slightly geeky. But, that’s what I do.

So from now on, every now and again on this blog you can expect more about film and television.

Have an amazing day & night.



Dear you,

I am excited to talk about something i have a big passion for.

Television programmes. Specifically the ones that talk about important issues

Don’t get me wrong I love fantasy where you can escape this shitty world and find a different one where your problems don’t matter, but at the end of the day you still have to come back to reality.

That’s why Th1rteen R3asons Why, might be one of the most beautiful television programmes to appear on Netflix. It is so heartbreakingly accurate to most average high schools.

For those who have not seen it yet, I’ll try my best not to spoil it, but I really do recommend you watch it. 

To avoid spoilers, I’ll use the blurb of the book it was based on.

‘Clay Jensen returns home to find a strange package with his name on it. Inside he discovers several cassette tapes recorded by Hannah Baker – his classmate and first love – who committed suicide two weeks earlier.

Hannah’s voice explains there are thirteen reasons why she killer herself. Clay is one of them. If he listens, he’ll find out why.

All through the night, Clay keeps listening – and what he discovers will change his life forever.’ 

To say this kind of subject is still made taboo even with it being the second most common reason for death in teenagers and young people. So, why am I writing this?

Personally, watching it, a season that takes roughly thirteen hours to watch, I completed Th1rteen R3asons Why in under twenty four hours, slightly sad I’m well aware, however as a media student it is hard to impress me with any kind of text, this on the other hand, talks about things that we as humans should be able to talk about. 

(It also gives trigger warnings to anything that is seen as harmful/uncomfortable to viewers.)

Th1rteen r3asons why shows real life problems and focuses these problems in a high school location: which is amazing, because it shows so many people that even in high school you can go through these problems.

Anyway, i do highly recommend you go and watch the TV series on Netflix.

And if you are having suicidal thoughts and or know someone who may be know there are ways to get through this, don’t try and face this by yourself.

If you are feeling suicidal please contact any of these links:

  • SupportLine Telephone Helpline: 01708 765200, email or write to SupportLine at PO Box 2860, Romford, Essex RM7 1JA – Provides emotional support and details of support groups, helplines, agencies and counsellors throughout the UK

  • Calm: 0800 – Campaign Against Living Miserably Help and support for young men aged 15-35 on issues which include depression and suicide.

  • HopeLine UK – 0800 068 4141 – for practical advice on suicide prevention

  • Lifeline (N.Ireland) 
    0808 808 8000
    For anyone in N.Ireland who is in distress or despair. Immediate help on phone 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Face to face counselling can be arranged, also befriending, mentoring. Issues dealt with include suicide prevention, self harm, abuse, trauma, depression, anxiety. 
    Run by Contact N.Ireland independent counselling service employing professional qualified counselors who have extensive experience of working with people facing a wide range of problems, free to all users.

  • Premier Lifeline
    0300 111 0101 
    Helpline providing a listening service, information, emotional and spiritual support from a Christian perspective

  • Samaritans:
    Helpline: 116 123
     (free of charge from a landline or mobile)
    24 hr helpline offering emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which may lead to suicide

Useful websites

    In memory of Charlie Waller – awareness, information and resources for those who are depressed

    Others who have been bereaved by suicide share their experiences
    Day to day support service and crisis support to help reduce suicide, depression and other stress related illnesses to service users who are in need of emotional support and encouragement. Instant online support for any person who may be experiencing something in their life which they may be finding difficult to cope with. Also peer to peer support facilitated and monitored through facebook by trained admins where service users support each other through discussion, topics and open forums


  • – Points of contact for those feeling down, depressed and/or suicidal

  • – Supportive site for men who suffer from depression and/or suicidal thoughts

Thank you to for providing different help lines.

All my love, hoping you are safe.


Dear you,

Period. Period. Period.

I know 1/5 people who read this will find talking about periods vile and uncomfortable, but I am here to ask why?

What’s wrong with the blood coming out of me? I wouldn’t find it horrific if your arm was bleeding, so why is it different if it does from my vagina?

I understand that it can be uncomfortable to men who obviously don’t bleed once a month, however, to those who have a girlfriend or sister or female best friends or in some cases girls who cannot get used to to the idea of blood. I would like to say nothing i say is meant to come across as harsh or rude, it’s simply that i refuse to be looked at as disgusting for something i simply cannot help.

I bleed.

I bleed because there is no baby inside me. And yet, I’m disgusting?


Yet, if i didn’t bleed and I had a baby at 19 would I be looked down on as a human being? Of course by certain people, they would look at me and say I had my whole life in front of me? That a baby is a precious thing that I will never truly love them because they stopped my life, made me leave my current life to help their own.

But that’s not true, women who give birth young have been amazing mum, I know many people who have made an even better life for themselves because they’ve got themselves something to live for and something to truly love.

And i don’t care – I know I’m bleeding and I’m proud.

And i know what I’ve written today isn’t polished, but it’s okay. 

I’m bleeding and yes, I’m tired because of it.

I hope you’re well and you’re happy